“I support a women’s right to do exactly what I want her to do.”
“I support women, except for, you know, their rights. Because then they’d make the WRONG choices, so we obviously can’t trust them. But I support them!”
“I support…
I just read the “clarification” of this post on the original blog. Apparently, what he meant was that he’s pro choice but he wants everyone on the internet to know that he is personally against abortion. So. What he’s saying is “I support your right to choose, but if you get one I’ll judge you for it, not to mention I’m morally superior because I would never get one. Because they’re wrong. But do what you want”. It pisses me off when people say this. No one needs to know your personal feelings about abortion. You are either okay with people getting abortions or you aren’t. What you would personally do doesn’t fucking matter. It’s like saying “I support gay marriage, but I would never get one. Because I’m not gay. And being gay is wrong”. What you would do is irrelevant here.
Yes.
This is why I have a problem with people who always feel the need to state that they would NEVER get an abortion before declaring themselves pro-choice. When you say it like this, it sounds as if you think abortion is wrong and, what’s more, that anyone who has gotten one made the wrong decision because even though you’ve probably never been in a situation where you’d need to consider an abortion you feel confident enough in saying what you’re sure you wouldn’t do it.
When you say it like that it comes off as if you’re trying to include yourself in a group that you secretly are ashamed for being a part of. Feeling the need to state that you are pro-choice but that you would also never get an abortion only feeds the stereotypes about pro-choicers; that being pro-choice is something that is inherently shameful or wrong and that everyone who identifies as such gets abortions frivolously and oh by the way YOU aren’t like THAT because you would NEVER get an abortion….even though you’ve never been in a position to need one, yet.
You’re attempting to separate yourself into a more favorable light while attempting to align yourself with a group that is not always seen as favorable.
It’s like people who claim to be feminists but they aren’t like those other feminists. They shave their armpits and they like men!
“I’m pro-choice but I would never get an abortion ” is the same as saying, “I’m a feminist but, don’t worry, I don’t hate men!”
Love,
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(Source: successisbreath)
